Favorite Blog Posts…

Favorite blog posts

For those who may be new to my blog, today I thought I’d do a round-up of my favorite posts to date.

All of these were written at different points of pain or struggle in my life. Writing allows me to journal through those experiences to grow and heal. It’s been a tool I’ve used since I was a child.

Even the act of writing is soothing to me.

My prayer is that these posts will touch others and help them grow and heal as well.

8 Favorite Blog Posts

Returning to my first love
Do You Know How to Fight Right?
Hope in everything but God
Outside vs. Inside
Darkness cannot stay where there is light
5 important promises when everything seems to be wrong
Guest post on marriage on With Purpose with Lo Tanner
Not so different

If God uses any of these posts to speak to you, would you drop a comment and let me know?

Be blessed.

Guest post on Marriage


I had the honor of writing a guest blog post for Mrs. Lo Tanner for her With Purpose Blogging Event.  Unfortunately, I have been sick quite a bit this month and missed the boat in promoting this here when it first came out.

I pray you will oblige me and go Check it out!

If you are married or are engaged to be married, there is wisdom and tips from 20+ years of doing life with my husband.  Enjoy!

L.O.V.E. is our dream come true!

I thought it fitting as part of our conclusion to this series that I share a little of mine and my hubby’s love story…

Highschool Sweethearts

Our love story started out when I was just 16 and he was 17.  24 Valentine’s together and nearly 18 years of marriage. That much time together has seen a lot of ups and downs. Job changes, job loss, multiple house moves, infertility, lost loved ones, near financial ruin. Many heartaches and struggles through the years.

I can honestly say that had we not made the decision long before we ever got married…heck before we even got engaged…to keep God at the center of our relationship, we likely would not have survived. That has been the key to our marriage.  Jesus’ spirit in us and His love for us kept us working (yes, love and marriage is work!) and fighting for ourselves.  It kept us bonded, kept us grounded and helped us love when we did not really feel like it.

Dating and destiny

For many reasons, I never was that young girl who dreamed of a fairy tale wedding.  I had been hurt by several people on several levels. I had witnessed marriages that I knew I would never want to be a part of. When my husband and I started dating though I knew right away something was different about him. His first gift to me was a Bible…

God was orchestrating things for me and for my husband. I did not recognize that then. I can see it so clearly now like fingerprints that turned those pages and allowed us to walk this storybook journey. He brought us together through His love for us and allowed us to flourish in our love for each other.  A dream come true that I had not yet even dreamed!

I feel this verse perfectly sums this up…

“then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind.”

L.O.V.E. cultivated and brought to fruition in marriage by a loving and merciful God…this is better than any fairy tale I could have made up…

L.O.V.E. is not just for the rich…

But whoever has this world’s goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him?

Most of us are fortunate enough to have roofs over our heads, clothes on our backs and food on the table.  However, there are many in our cities, towns, states…maybe even in your church…that are struggling with these basics.  I have lived in and visited large cities where there are homeless on the corners or in doorways.

Where there are places that people avoid so that they do not have to see this side of humanity.

If we are professing to be Christians having the love of God in us, then why do we often struggle with showing that love to those less fortunate?  I have seen the sidelong glances at the outcasts in our streets, our churches.  The “What are they doing in here” looks…the “Why don’t they get a job” looks.

Did you ever stop to think that with one change in your life that could be you?

Don’t Hold It Against Me

Along side streets, on corner roads,
I ply my wares, try to ease my load.
You walk right by with unseeing eyes,
Not caring how hard I work to get by.
You don’t see the humanity, only filth on the outside of me.
Rising at dark and lying down with the same,
I am a person with emotions, a heart, a name.
So next time I see you as you try to pass unaware,
Going on like there is no one there.
Look at me, I ask you, just once in your life,
Put yourself in my shoes and feel the strife.
I didn’t wind up here because I wanted to,
Don’t hold it against me,
Because I could be you.
                                 – Enjoy more original poems by Ammie in her book
Next time someone who looks like they need new clothes, a shower, or food comes your way…do not be so quick to run the other direction. 
Think about how you can help:
Can you go buy them a meal and bring it back to them? 
Can you pack a backpack with toiletry items and a change of clothes or a blanket? 
Can you contact someone who could better assist them? 
Can you just take a moment and pray for them?
We sometimes feel we are lacking in so many things, yet we are so rich compared to some people in our communities.  God did not offer His love just to the rich though. He sought out the meek, weak, pitiful and poor. So should we if we are to L.O.V.E. well.

Above everything else L.O.V.E.!

An attitude that says above everything else love! Acts of kindness, charity, compassion and friendship stem from this mindset.

Colossians 3:14

14 But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.

Power of Love

Love has the power to make us perfect!  Or at least as perfect as we can be in that we are fallen humans, saved by the grace of our Father. 
Out of a heart full of love comes forgiveness, peace and thanksgiving.
Our humanity can find it hard to forgive when we are wronged.  It is hard to forget times of anguish, fear, pain and suffering.  Especially if you are still in a place of hurting. The pain makes it difficult to imagine anything that might make you “perfect”.
Love binds up hurts, takes away hate and heals our soul.  It is what gets us up each day to work for the good of the ones we care for. 
Love keeps us from despair and despondency in the worst of times. And it has us gushing and giggling in the best of times.

Love is a Verb

Years ago, a preacher told my soon-to-be husband and I that “Love is not a feeling, it is an action.  There will be days you have to choose to love each other because you will not feel like doing so.” (Thank you Brother Danny Waters for these wise words from a sweet, Godly man.)
He was so right!  Although we talk of it like it’s a feeling, it’s the actions someone shows us that speaks L.O.V.E. to us.  Remember, L.O.V.E. is loving everyone; very encouraging.
In our action of choosing to “put on love” we create a bond that leads to perfection. In marriage, with our families, in our places of work and our places of worship. 
Caring for the sick and poor, staying up late to talk with our children about their fears and dreams, cooking your hubby’s favorite meal, going with a friend to the doctor. 
We connect loving everyone by putting it in action!
Not that we become perfect as the world sees perfect. But by tapping into God’s love in us we create lasting bonds in our relationships as we show love to each other.