Can I be really honest here? I am NOT good at de-stressing. I don’t do REST well.
I’m really great at creating checklists, completing tasks and just getting stuff done.
Out the door by 6:30 a.m. to work, come home, cook, clean, run errands, play with the dogs, fall in the bed. Do it again tomorrow.
Why Not REST and DE-STRESS?
Just sit and be still for awhile. Admonishment from the hubby.
Take time to relax, go to the beach. Advice from my mom.
And she’s not wrong…I live 30 minutes to an hour from MULTIPLE beaches.
My excuse for not resting…for not unwinding and ridding myself of stress?
I have too much to do…I’m busy.
REST is as important as work.
One of the Core Values of our women’s ministry at my church is REST. Therefore, as a leader I am earnestly working on improving in this area.
4 Things to help you de-stress and relax
Here are a few things I have found to be tried and true…to get me focused back on Him, settle myself into a place of calm, and just be.
- PRAY. This always calms me down, no matter how out of control I feel. Drawing close to my Father this way means peace in my heart. And sometimes that prayer is is simply silence. Just to sit and bask in His love for me is everything!
- READ. Not just my Bible, although depending on what is stressing me, it is my first pick. But when I just need to zone and not think about things for a bit, I usually turn to one of three book types: faith-based, history (Civil War, Native American, Revolutionary War) or mystery books. Reading is my happy place – I have always, always loved a good book and even more I just love words.
- GO OUTSIDE. Take a walk, or just sit on my patio. Take in nature. Consider all of the beautiful things the Lord has made. It never fails to calm me.
- WATCH/LISTEN. Watch an uplifting movie (think Hallmark or inspirational films) OR listen to uplifting music. Taking my mind to a more positive place that allows me to decompress from stress. Inspirational music especially helps shift my focus from me and the busy I’ve allowed to cramp itself into my life.
Give God top priority
De-stressing and taking time to let go and loosen up reminds me that HE is the reason for everything and that all I do is to be done to His glory.
If too many other things are screaming for my attention it is time to let some of those things go. I only want to pursue His best for me.
And if I feel I cannot take relax time, de-stress, time, unwind and be with Jesus time, then He cannot give me those best things. I won’t have room.
I hope one of these will be helpful for you as you learn to de-stress better.

This is so necessary! We can’t ‘DO’ if we don’t Rest. Both physically and spiritually. I love your book choices! That’s my go to method 📚😁
Thanks for the feedback! Glad you enjoyed it!
I’m a Type B living in a Type A life and I long for rest. Yes, please, just a few minutes to destress. I find that relaxation in reading and writing–particularly if it’s along the water’s edge. Loved this post! Peace and grace, Tammy
Thank you Tammy!
Yes Rest is definitely something I need to make more of a priority!
We as women are the worst at resting I think!